For their benefit – as well as your peace and sanity
Hey new momma, I see you. You’re trying so hard to keep it all in one piece. To be a good partner, a great mother, and a fully-functioning human being. And your feeling of self-worth has taken a turn for the worst.
You read about all these support groups for new parents. Your eyes – not unlike the rest of you – are tired from staring at your phone screen for hours on end googling “new parent resources” or “new mom help”.
But thinking of joining support programs or seeing a professional makes you feel like you’ve already failed. After all, aren’t you supposed to be the one who knows what’s best for your own child? Well, yes and no.
I’m going to let you in on a rarely acknowledged truth – one that will make you feel relieved and possibly uneasy – until you realize it makes sense. The truth is – it’s ok to ask for help. Not only is it ok – but it’s a sign that you’re willing to do whatever it takes for your little one – which is pretty amazing.
Here at Figgi, we’re committed to supporting you during this exciting, yet exhausting time of your life. We’re here for you – not to tell you what you should or have to do – but to help you navigate through the difficult yet rewarding adventure of parenthood.
With encouragement from our doulas, virtual community, and lactation and sleep consultants – you’ll have confidence in keeping your baby happy and healthy. And if that wasn’t enough, you’ll get your sleep, sanity, and self-confidence back.
Why You Should Learn to Value Yourself
Many of us don’t want to acknowledge our value, especially as mothers. We undermine our worth, because we either don’t believe it or don’t want others to think we’re full of ourselves.
I’m here to tell you – you are valuable. As a human being and as a parent. You will be the one who protects your child. You’ll love them more than anything in this world. Think about that the next time someone judges or second-guesses your choices as a parent.
And as a parent, you’ll have a bigger impact on your child than most people in their life. That can be terrifying at times. But it’s also why you should learn to recognize and acknowledge your self-worth.
You may not think the way you see yourself will impact your child. But your child picks up on how you talk to yourself and treat yourself. In fact, even newborn babies can sense their parents’ anxiety¹. So if you don’t learn to respect your value, your child will sense that – and this can have an effect on their beliefs about their own self-worth.
Once again, don’t let this scare you.
What matters more than anything is that you love and care for your child. Unsurprisingly, studies have shown a positive correlation between children’s self-esteem and support, love, and acceptance from their parents². So give yourself grace and accept that you don’t need to know everything. And know that asking for help is not a weakness.
Seeking Help as a New Parent Is Honoring Your Self-Worth
We humans are stubborn. So stubborn that sometimes we would rather suffer on our own than ask someone else – who might know something we don’t – for help.
Asking for support as a new parent – or as a parent in general – is not a failure.
If you’re asking for help – even when you feel like you should know it all – you’re on a path to becoming an amazing parent. You wouldn’t want your loved ones – especially your child – to feel like they shouldn’t ask for help when they need it. So you shouldn’t be hesitant to reach out for the benefit of yourself and your child.
Support for new parents shouldn’t be – and truly isn’t – something that is looked down upon.
If you seek support and encouragement from your loved ones, professionals, and other parents – you’re valuing yourself and your child’s well-being. You’re demonstrating a willingness to learn and grow. Who wouldn’t want to pass that trait along to their child?
How to Find the Right Support as a New Parent
Seeking assistance from others can be daunting. There are endless resources for new parents on the internet – some of them helpful, others not so much. Then the warnings and recommendations that follow every doctor’s office visit. So how do you find the right support program for you?
Yes, it’s important to accept that you don’t know everything. It’s also crucial to recognize you don’t have control over everything. But you have control over which resources and support are best for you and your family. And you know yourself and your situation best.
You don’t have to get approval from others to make the right decision for you and your baby. You don’t have to go to the same doctor as Aunt Mel and you don’t have to take your Grandma Sue’s advice on whether or not you should let your baby “cry it out”.
You got this – for you and your little one.
Find Your Figgi Village for Parenthood Support
If you’re ready to look for a helping hand in your pregnancy or postpartum journey, we’re here to provide you with our expertise and more importantly, our undying support.
When you become a Figgi member, you’ll have access to knowledgeable professionals that will guide you through the most difficult parts of becoming a parent. And you’ll be able to connect with other Figgi community members who are going through the same journey. You won’t have to go it alone.
We understand that everyone’s experience is different, yet new parents have many of the same concerns and challenges. Our team is well-versed in the challenges of parenthood. And our holistic approach means we’re also well-versed in people.
We’ll work with you to determine the best approaches for you and your baby. You’ll feel heard and safe in the Figgi community. We’re here to guide you and support you, but you have the power to make decisions that are right for you.
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